After my thread about my wife not talking in " Loved Ones " , she has raised some interesting questions now she is talking,
I said I couldn't live with hiding any more and wanted to be more open with my dressing not just around the house. So she immediately queried if I didn't want to transition why would I want to be seen dressed as a woman ? If I walked down the village how could I live with people laughing at me ? I tried answering by saying that we are born with female traits that exist along side our male ones, for some reason that part needs to be satisfied, as for neighbours laughing, I pointed out that the figure is estimated to be 10% of the male population are CDers ! So that means even in our village of about 300 there are going to be others, just think next time we go to a village get together at least one other guy will be wearing a bra and panties !
We touched on the subject of help groups and she's going to take some convincing that men meet up just to have a pint and a chat ! I tried to tell that if their partner doesn't want to know it's a way of justifying the need and effort that goes into it !
It's proving so hard to convince her that it makes you happy, it helps with stress and the clothes are just so nice to wear !
Despite her agreeing to let me dress more openly I know it was hard for her to accept and say it, so I'm not pushing it at the moment ! She is struggling to take in what we have discussed so far and we haven't discussed my need to shop or what I have already bought !
When she does decide to see me dressed , she hasn't even considered what I'm going to wear and where they came from, she may assume I borrow her underwear, which I don't or that I have a bra on with forms ! ( Double layered balloons with water rather than bought ones which still feels more acceptable !) I did say when she's ready we would need to discuss it !
It may be better to ask her if she wants to see my avatar picture first ?
I'm sure other questions will crop up but I will thank members on the forum because it made to easier to answer her after reading comments from you all in the last year .