Hi all,
I hope the holiday season finds everyone healthy and happy and ready to tackle 2015 which is about to rear it's head.
I had the opportunity to meet with some GG friends yesterday (still on holidays until 7 Jan . . . ah the life of a government employee ). My one friend asked if I would mind if she brought her younger sister to lunch. I did not have a problem so long as she let her know about me as I did not want her to feel uncomfortable. I got the restaurant early and my friends slowly arrived and as we were exchanging holiday wishes my friend with her younger sister in tow arrived. I could tell by the way she (the younger sister) was scanning the group she was searching for the CDer. Now I don't think she was being rude but more inquisitive as it is not everyday you see one of us in the wild or meet them in person.
We were all introduced and we immediately accepted her into our little group as she was quite charming and very fun. The meal went along and evolved into chit chat and the younger sister was asking me all sorts of questions about being TG. Now I never refuse a moment to educate and she was being polite in her questions (albeit some were a bit overt . . . "Umm what do you do with . . . it?" ). So I remarked that when she came in she was scanning the room and asked her if she was looking to pick me out? She said she was and that she had difficulty at first as I did seem to appear as a woman. I then remarked that it must have been easier once she got closer. Again she indicated not so much and it wasn't until we shook hands that she made me. So since we were being honest I asked her what "guy traits" gave me away. She laughed and said "Oh, it wasn't your face it was your make-up" I was a bit confused and asked her was it poorly done? She went to explain "No, your make-up is quite good it is just a lot. Women don't typically wear that much make-up during the day and tend to go with minimal." The fact that I was wearing so much is what pegged me in her mind.
Now don't get me wrong, I know we (CDers) have to wear a lot of make-up to hide a multitude of tells (beard shadow pops readily to mind) but I never thought of it in that way. So I glanced around my group and realized that with the exception of some mascara, eyeliner and lipstick most of my friends were wearing minimal make-up while my make-up was more worthy of a night bar hopping . So I gave a bit of a laugh and she asked what I thought was so funny. I then said "It is ironic that one thing we rely on so heavily to appear female is one of the things that out us" She got the humour and we all had a good laugh.
Hugs
Isha