Amy,
During your abstinence from dressing in women's clothing were you happy? And did you have any depression? Suppressing the desire to dress can bring one down.
Were you happier dressing? Did you have more energy?
During my married years, the desire to dress occurred many times. But I had very limited opportunities to dress. After my divorce, when I allowed myself the opportunities to dress, depression vanished; I seemed to have more energy; and I was happier.
The CDer's caution should be something to the affect: suppressing or avoiding wearing feminine clothing may impact your health and well being negatively.
Allow your fem side some opportunities and observe how it makes you feel.
I hope this helps,
D Michele