I used to think this was just a fetish. But I can remember wearing my sisters clothes long before puberty. It almost feels sexual though. That can't be a fetish can it?
I used to think this was just a fetish. But I can remember wearing my sisters clothes long before puberty. It almost feels sexual though. That can't be a fetish can it?
Fetishes are likely to develop before puberty actually, or more accurately your fetishes manifest in puberty based on prior experiences. That's not to say it is necessarily a fetish for you, as it varies heavily by individual.
It is what you allow and/or make it to be.
I realize that sexuality is genetic. But where do fetishes come from? I have long suspected it something to do with childhood but I don't know.Originally Posted by Nefer
Fetishes come from a variety of sources, and there's very little in terms of consensus within the psychological community. For some it can simply be pavlovian. You associate certain things with sexuality, and the presence of such things enhances, or even becomes necessary for you. This would more likely happen through some kind of conditioning. People who watch a very particular type of pornography can often develop these kinds of fetishes. For crossdressing fetishist, it would often develop much earlier based on tactile pleasure or a forbidden appeal or any number of other things. Fetishes of this kind though, seem more likely to arise due to developmental plasticity. As I don't dress sexually I don't speak from experience, but as someone who's done a lot of anthropological research, I can tell you could read and study for years on this topic and never be finished or have a definitive correct answer.
Varies greatly around here from what I've read. For me it's almost completely sexual and I would consider it a fetish almost like living out a fantasy or role play. I don't want to actually be a girl, but can play one and embrace a side of my personality that I never get to experience in reality, feeling like a hot party chick. However, I would say the majority of people I've read from on this site don't consider it sexual at all and the majority of their cross dressing activities can involve simply doing day to day activities presenting as a female.
The short answer is No!
It is something that persists.
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
First of all, this is a false dichotomy. It can be a fetish AND something more. Second, sexual imprinting begins in early childhood long before puberty. Third, all sexual arousal is fetishistic. As a culture, though, we only call unusual sexual attractions "fetishes." There is no essential difference between being attracted to "men" or "shoes." Being attracted to shoes is just a lot more unusual. Fourth, there is no convincing evidence that any sexuality is genetic including heterosexuality. If there is, I'd like to know how to get tested to see if I have the gay gene. A sexuality is just the sum of your fetishes. That doesn't mean that any particular sexuality is invalid or a choice. The "genetic vs. choice" argument is another false dichotomy that floats around here a lot. If it were a choice, I wouldn't have chosen this.
What? I thought sex was about reproduction, survival of the species. Shoes is about shoes, isn't it? Or have you found a brogue that can brogulate?
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The vast majority of sexual contacts do not result in reproduction. That's just a side effect. A good one or we wouldn't be here. Nature doesn't care whether our species survives or not.
CDing is different things for different people. Enjoying it is the key whatever it happens to be for each of us.
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It isn't a fetish.
What if it is a fetish? What difference would that make?
BTW, I told myself "this is just a fetish" for a long time. Guess how that turned out?
for most it really is just a fetish
and for some it's a fetish that lessened sexually but has imprinted into comfort / differing sexuality that might be then confused as a gender identity THING!
because it's less "weird" in this modern age to be gender non-conforming / fluid that just to have a fetish or just like it cuz you like it (and or used to be more of a sexual thing!)
This deserve a tatoo!
you can have a foot fetish or a knee / elbow / armpit fetish
but you can't have a breast or vagina fetish!
hair fetish?
a THING for blondes!
tattooze!
that ooze!
I thought a fetish had to be for an unanimated object. That would leave human body parts out. Crossdressing isn't one size fits all haha. There are those that don't do it for sexual reasons at all aren't there?
I'd like to hit the like button for this ^. But is nature capable of caring about anything?Nature doesn't care whether our species survives or not.
"You're the only one to see the changes you take yourself through", Stevie Wonder
Wow! Some of the best and most informing posts I've read regarding us "fetish dressers" in the 7+ years I've been on CD.com. Back then? If u even hinted sex ever had anything to do with your dressing you mite get beat up pretty badly!
Now, it seems that those dressers that have NEVER been turned by dressing r pretty rare birds. In my case, it has always been sexual in private. But, when I began going out dressed I noticed I didn't get turned on at all. And, that hasn't changed in 7 years. In private, turned on. Out dressed, nada, nothing, zero sexual thots!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
The first time I dressed in women's clothing, it was a definite turn-on. That said, over the years, it has become less and less of a sexual thing, and more just something I find comfortable. Also, it's fun. Women have so much more variety of choice in cut, color, and even overall "look" and feel than men. I guess that's why they sometimes call it "drab".
"We don't see things as they are; we see things as we are." Anais Nin
fet·ish
ˈfediSH/
noun
noun: fetish; plural noun: fetishes
an inanimate object worshiped for its supposed magical powers or because it is considered to be inhabited by a spirit.
"an African fetish"
a course of action to which one has an excessive and irrational commitment.
"he had a fetish for writing more opinions each year than any other justice"
a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.
"Victorian men developed fetishes focusing on feet, shoes, and boots"
T-shirt says: "Hi, I Crossdress!"
So it all boils down to who gets to decide what is "excessive or irrational" or "to an abnormal degree". That conclusion makes it time to go re-read the thread about Perception and Harley Davidson.
"We don't see things as they are; we see things as we are." Anais Nin
For me ditto with docrobbby sherry. Totally fetish and highly sexual in private. In public not so but I do feel good and feminine but not the arousal that I get from my private sessions which of course makes sense. I recently went out in public with my ex wife. She thinks its cool I dress now and go out. Well I was trying on some outfits for her and she could tell I was getting worked up by it. Thats me.
Aspiring shoe/heel model
ha ha.....i felt it was kinda a fetish too....especially when I first started, cause I was into fetish wear so i figured thats what this was....but that got old, and my thoughts, and feelings changed, everyone is going to be at different levels of this...some stay in one place, others move on i guess ...it could be a fetish for some...
If you want to call it a fetish, go ahead and call it a fetish. From my point of view, I call it a pleasure.
There is a gay gene on the x chromosome.
This therapist agrees with you. See the section, "Where Does The Fetish Come From?". Childhood. It starts out as a fascination and becomes sexualized during puberty. Further down, she explains that fetishes are deeply embedded and cannot be changed. So the advice is to accept and work with it, and not be ashamed. It is a part of who you are.
http://www.therapywithcare.com/Article_Fetish.html
Not really. From 2005: http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationshi...there-gay-gene
"Since sexual orientation is such a complex trait, we're never going to find any one gene that determines whether someone is gay or not," says Mustanski. "It's going to be a combination of various genes acting together as well as possibly interacting with environmental influences."
And an article from 2014 citing several studies: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/scie...rch-finds.html
There are many theories involving different factors and the point is that no one knows for sure.
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