Hello everyone: I recently found this wonderful site and I browse it every day to read all the interesting stories.
I am 44, and in a long relationship with my GF. My wife I should said, we live together for 13 years.
Early in the relationship, I told her something about being Bisexual, but later i regret it and try to dismiss it.
She knew something was going on in my past, in regards to some experiences, but I never told her specifics nor does she ask, but I know she has something in her mind or the idea that I have homosexual inclinations. (but again she doesn't ask)
For years I have been struggling with my sexuality, and in the past 8 years, it turned more into gender identity issue.
When I was about 15 or 16, I remember dressing up a little bit for a few times, only with a long skirt, stockings and a pair of heels.
After that I didn't dress up for years, but I had issues with my sexuality.
About 8 years ago, I had this urge to buy make ups clothes and shoes, and transform my self fully in a girl, and I started doing it when my GF was away visiting family.
Things started escalating because it was not only when she was away, but I started doing it while she was home but I would tell her I was going to therapy.
So thing gat a little exciting and dangerous, because now I had to do it well organized so she would not know.
I went out about a dozen times, and every time I loved it, that was in the first year and a half when I started doing it.
Then we moved Mexico and I had to stop, because my lifestyle here would not allow me to do so. But when I go back to the States for a visit, I dress up and go out when I can, the last time I went out fully dressed was back in July. It was during the day in NYC and I felt great.
It is lately that I feel that I want to stop hiding and come out, starting to her.
Before I would not consider coming out at all, specially my family, (Father, sisters, nephews) but now I keep thinking about it and some part inside of me tell me that I should not care, and now I am more willing to come out in spite of what people think, not an easy thing because most people around my life would not understand, so I have the risk to lose a lot of people in my life.
With my wife, I some time try to pose feminine sitting down or something, so perhaps she would ask me about it, but she doesn't.
Now I feel more confortable using feminine postures and I don't care what she thinks.
I often think about just telling her but for some reason I am still holding back.
I know that asking what I should do will not help because it is something I have to be sure my self, but I want to ask your experiences, and if the same thing happen to you and what was the outcome.
Earlier in my life my questions were if I was Gay or Bi, but with time I think that I am transgender.
I am more confortable being feminine, and something I did not consider before is that now I would probably be willing to be full time and take hormones and even surgery.
I know this a Cross-dressers forum but I think that you could give me some advise, knowing what I really feel.
Hugs,
Paola.