OK, so first my story -- the other night I was out at a bar with my girlfriend and I was dressed what I consider "en demi-femme." That is, I felt I was presenting male, but I had on women's yoga pants and a women's long-sleeve t-shirt, some small gold rings in my ears, but nothing I wouldn't wear to a client's office. No wig, no makeup. The waitress came over and she was very lively and started hitting on my girlfriend -- lots of outrageous banter -- it was a riot. Then she turned to me and asked what I was having and when I started to answer her jaw dropped and she said, "I'm SOOO sorry! I thought you were a lesbian couple!" So I guess I finally "passed" in public. Briefly.
But now on to my question. My outfit wasn't especially femme. I mean really the only difference between a men's long-sleeve t-shirt and a woman's long-sleeve t-shirt is that a woman's cost twice as much. Yoga pants? Again the only difference between those and my workout pants is the yoga pants not only cost more, but they don't have pockets. I wouldn't have raised a (perfectly-shaped) eyebrow at finding either of these things in the men's department. And yet, it apparently matters to me that I got them in the women's department. Oh, yeah, I was going to ask a question, wasn't I? The question is: if you could buy your femme clothes off the men's rack, would you? It is the clothing or the knowledge that it's "women's" clothing that matters to you?