One half of me is fighting, with every ounce of my being, to not be here, to not be in this forum, to not be thinking about these issues. I wake up in the morning, imploring myself to stay focused on my real world ... being a good husband, being a good dad, running my business. I talk to myself, usually in my car, to stay focused and productive at work (really from all distractions, but this is clearly #1 at the moment). I sit down at my desk with the best of intentions and then ... I am back on the internet, looking at hair removal options, looking at clothing and CD accessories, reading in this forum. I have a dozen journal entries (Day One), telling myself that this is not rational, at all, and that I am a failure and a coward for "giving in."
The other half of me is compassionate and hopeful that there is a happy outcome to this. During this same period of time, my wife and I have had the best time ... just very close, great talks (not about this), snuck in a long weekend getaway for two, had an hour long coffee this afternoon together at Starbucks. She has been supportive of my interest in ridding myself of some body hair (advocate for the laser removal of my back hair, okay with the shaving of my chest, actually suggested that I try shaving my legs last night ... which left me with near stunned and excited silence, but a muttering of "maybe" ... and then contacting a spa today about waxing my legs entirely!
I have no idea what I am doing ...
I do not see myself, ever being in "full presentation" mode ... I do not see myself "getting over it" ... I have no idea what I want. But I feel like I have to do SOMETHING, find some resolution to this mental morass, before I destroy my family, my business, and myself. I feel like I have swam out way too far into deep waters, and I am struggling to stay afloat at the moment.
It seems like many here in are committed and comfortable and accepting of this part of themselves. Is there anyone battling these same issues? Are you fighting to "squash" and kill this interest (or at least the practice of it) or are you fighting to achieve self-acceptance?