So it's been a while since I've started a thread but I'm struggling with striking a balance right now. I came out to my wife in 2013, and went out in public shortly after that. Then I grew a beard and out Mishell on the shelf for over a year. Now she's crying to come out, and I'm not sure if I should let her. I feel like my beard keeps my wife from having to wonder if I'm dressing and I'm not sure she officially approves. What really scares me is when I went to a meeting I realized I was really advanced in my makeup, and attire which to me meant I'm deeper into this than I give myself credit for. I feel like my other side is in a bucket and I'm holding the lid closed.