Not sure of the eventual success (??). However, it looks like my wife and I are going to make an attempt at the middle road of transition. We are going to attempt to have our cake and eat it too... We have a good marriage and love each other but it's complicated by my GD. At the moment she appears to have now accepted being married to a Tomboy. I believe that she also understands that she does not have two husbands but that I'm ONE (albeit a complicated one). She has taken to referring to me (one) as her combined husband, BFF, and girlfriend
We have also dropped the use of my fem name in favor of accepting my female self as me under my current legal name. This will put my renewed interest in HRT on hold in the hope that we can make this work. I told my therapist that I think of my current self as poisoned by testosterone instead of bathed in estrogen, but that we will see if we can make this work with the cards that nature has dealt us.
My wife did make comments to the effect that full transition would involve both great expense and seemingly endless medical procedures, which seems true. On the upside she also did NOT seem to point to an immediate ending of our relationship if these costs were incurred... I hope we can make this work. I'll still consider HRT as a next half step if we need to move on from here.
This is the kind of pic that keeps us going and I have a similar mini poster on order from Kama:
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