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    A Big First for Me

    I have been cross dressing forever, since a little kid.
    My first wife divorced me for wearing girdles under my
    street clothes. My second wife was totally OK with my dressing,
    even pick out things for me to wear. Since I am a big Lumber Jack
    body type, going out of the house dressed was never an option.

    Well last night I broke the Ice; I was all day in my jean skirt, bra with
    forms to give me a DD look, and a plane black top.
    I jumped into my truck to go down to the mail box to get the mail.
    I did not want to change into pants so I get into the truck and go
    to the mail box.
    Well I thought I might get something to eat as well as I was out,
    so I went through the drive through at an Abby's, wearing a skirt.
    Now this is a big first for me, yes I still have my mustache, and bald
    head, but it felt daring for me to leave the friendly con finds of the Closet,
    just to drive down the street to get some food.
    I must admit that this forum has given this old man a lot of confidence that
    a few years ago I would never have even tried. I leave the drapes open,
    no longer wondering if some one looks through a window.

    Free at last.
    Rader

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    Good for you! Makes me a little misty-eyed reading about you finding some freedom.

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    WOW! What a great wife you have! Good for you! You gone further than I ever have, LOL.

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    That's a great, amazing, huge step!
    Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.

    Eleanor Roosevelt

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    Good for you!

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    Way to go Rader! It's not so bad, is it?! Where's your next excursion to?

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    I guess you CAN teach on old dog new tricks...

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    Congrats Radar!

    I know how you feel. Every step is a huge step for us. It will get easier next time. Remember, GGals come in all sort of shapes an sizes too. True, the moustache may be a something you will eventually have to deal with, but being a big masculine guy, Ha! Don't you dare let that stop you for growing and glowing!

    Smooch... and a big HUG!

    Cassie

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    Good for u! It's amazing the things we'll do after we get used to going out isn't it, Rader?

    I finished a shoot earlier tonite at a vacant property on a cul de sac. When I pulled in, I was wearing jeans, loose shirt, and drab shoes over my skimpy leopard outfit! (See avatar).

    Then, on leaving I got out of my car still wearing me leopard wedges and tites. (No jeans!) Had to close and lock the car gate. I don't think the neighbors saw me. But, if they did? Well, they're not MY neighbors!
    U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.

    Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!

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    Yay, Rader!

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    you go gurl x

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    awesome, well done!!!

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    Rader,
    I am glad that you can spread your wings a little more.

    I have been doing it constantly for years even if only a small bit at a time.
    Work on your elegance,
    and beauty will follow.

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    Hi Rader,

    CONGRATS! Any step forward is a good step.

    Hugs

    Isha

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    Y.O.L.O. YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE ,,,, lol,,,,, Make the Best of it !!!

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    Congratulations, That urge to get out and about will grow as you spread your wings.

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    How wonderful to arrive at a state of mind like you have Rader. One of the compensations for growing older.

    Congratulations and thanks for letting us know.

    xNikki
    I used to have a short attention spa

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    Congratulations Rader, that is a great story and your sharing of feeling free is touching.

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    Congratulations Rader!

    The first time I ever left my house dressed was also to get the mail and go for a drive, that was probably 10 years ago. It gets easier and easier, though I don't go out very often, and I don't just go anywhere I still plan my trip and scout it out first. Like you I am not a typical female body type....................I guess I just think that one still needs to be cautious

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    Several years ago we were having dinner at Cracker Barrel when an older man, my guess is in his late 60’s, came in by himself totally dress. It was a fashion fitting his age, but there was one thing that totally stood out. He/she wasn’t wearing a wig and had that type of bald head, you know with the little ring of the last bit of hair around it. At that time I didn’t know what it was, but she walked in and sat with such confidence and extremely nonchalant. I truly admired her courage. I noticed people did look up and maybe glanced a little longer then normal, but then went right back to their dinners and conversations. I think the key isn’t how you look, but how you handle yourself. I only hope to get there someday.
    Congrats and keep it up.
    Victoria

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    Crikey!!! That is a HUGE step... Well done you - and hopefully you feel better for it...

    Take care now... it's a small but escalating step to ball gowns and tiaras and somewhere to promenade...

    You just might need some duct tape for the tiara...

    Katey x
    "Put some lipstick on - Perfume your neck and slip your high heels on
    Rinse and curl your hair - Loosen your hips, and get a dress to wear"
    Stefani Germanotta

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    Radar, congratulations on your first step. I too have worn a skirt out and about lots of times. I own a Utilikilt also that I wear. However I don't wear a wig or makeup (or bras and forms). I have a very short buzz cut on what hair I have left and a mustache. I'm not trying to pass as a woman, I'm just a freestyler who likes wear some articles of women's clothing.

    If you like this type of dressing I suggest that you check out http://www.skirtcafe.org/

    Just thought that I need to change my name on this board someday. As I'm not trying to present as a woman, so I shouldn't be using a woman's name.

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    Thanks to all for the Congratulations;
    It is from the encouragement here that I got the gumption to venture out of the closet.
    Yes, I can see more of the same in the future. I must admit, it was a little daring and
    exciting.
    I could get hooked real easy.
    Rader

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    Good for you, these little victories feel just great!
    Visit Kandi's Land (http://www.kandis-land.com/) daily! Nothing but positive and uplifting posts!
    Pictures and stories of every time out: https://www.flickr.com/photos/131254150@N06/.

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    You go girl.
    Angie

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