Hello,
I started HRT on January 10th 2014, more than a year ago. At the same time, I began electrolysis. I can’t use Laser because my beard is mostly white. I accumulated about 85 hours during the year, 55 of wich really counts because we upped the current and duration. Long story short, at this time, I’m about 35% done. Why not more? Because I had to shave every Monday, either for the support group or the speech specialist. I WON’T go out dressed as a woman with the beard clearly showing.
My plan was to be fulltime by January 2015. Obviously this won’t happen. I promised myself that I wouldn’t fulltime as long as there one whisker left of the beard. That’s not negotiable for me. Both electrologists I consulted (mine and another I trust) repeated the same thing: don’t EVER shave…
So now, more than a year after, I’m facing a whole in boy mode with the long beard 24/7. That as been a nightmare for me. On January 23rd, I shaved for the last time until my beard is gone. That means no outing as a woman. That’s hardship number one.
Hardship number two: because I did my coming-out to my employer on April Last year, they informed me that to pursue any further, my name must be changed legally. I had heard of MtF in Québec for whom it took two-three years to complete the process.
Not knowing how long it would take for me, I built a very strong document highlighting why I should change my name and had two docs sign it. Oh surprise, the acceptance letter came in in September and the legal certificate in October. Wow ! I hadn’t bargin for this…
Now my name is change almost everywhere but work.
Here is my question: I’m debating doing my coming-out at the office, explaining that my name is Maude, legally, and explain to my coworkers the stages involved in transition so that they get accustomed to my name. However, I’ll still present as male, and a wookie at that…
The only thing that will connect me for the next year is my name. I AM Maude…
Should I push HR to make the change in order to get me in equilibrium again somewhat or endure full boymode 24/7 for a year with all the triggers involved.
I’ll await your comments,
Maude