I have been shocked over the past week just how quickly my wife has disassociated herself with me. We were talking today and I asked if she wanted some resources to get an understanding of what I was going through and she flat out refused to what to know. Okay then, moving on apparently.
Also, she is constantly telling me that people at work are going to be mean to me, avoid interacting, sabotage my work etc. Not one supportive statement at any time. Now, I know this happens a lot, I get that. But this is from someone that wants to separate on amicable terms and will "always be my friend". Wow, what a friend. It is one thing to be realistic and perhaps she is fearful for my well being at work. But not exactly up lifting, particularly while I was having a melt down, complete with lots of tears. But that was momentary. (side bar - my work place has a pretty strong TG bill of rights with grounds for dismal for any mistreatment of a trans person, just as with any other person).
So, I thought we would be friends, but wow, this makes it hard. I am doing my best to be calm and collected and considerate and respectful as I want the separation to be on friendly terms. I don't want to go to court over any of this. So I suck it up. Just seems odd to me, or maybe disingenuous? Am I being naive or over sensitive??
30 years...gone in a heart beat....
Erin