Small Dilemma

[statefan26]

In a couple weeks, everyone will be out of tbe house for the weekend, which I have been looking forward to for a while now. Its been over a year since I've had a night to myself to do as I please. Ive been getting anxious for the opportunity to dress up and enjoy the weekend. Unfortunately, I was just informed that a friends bachelor party has been planned for that weekend. The plan is to go on a brew tour of different breweries in our area, which I have never done and would like to do. Would it be too selfish of me to stay home or should I just go to the bachelor party and hope another opportunity comes up.

[Christie ann]

Oh yes, the conundrum that many of us face. Our activities here are not quite mainstream and so lend itself to many quiet nights by ourselves. On the other hand you could attend a very public activity where cross dressing is probably not totally accepted but with friends. Do we stay in by ourselves and be pretty for the mirror (and some peace of mind) or do we go with the guys? Both fun but quite different. What is most important to you?

[pamela7]

go on the beer party dressed - see the thread on "drinking and dressing" :-))

[MissyRocks]

Well if party is just one night and you have the whole weekend, couldn't you do the party one night and have the rest of the time to yourself?

[AngelaYVR]

Sod's Law. Bachelor party, no question. He is your friend, after all.

[DonnaT]

Beware of public intoxication, etc. as a by-product of such a party, but go to the party.

[Beverley Sims]

I can see the temptation to dress, but in all reality get a life and do one last thing with the boys.

[Alice_2014_B]

I say do both!
Go out to the brew fest dressed up as your best.
I think it would be very easy to play off too because of the occasion. But I would not drink a lot, personally.

[kimdl93]

Do the party and look ahead to other opportunities.

[Suzie Petersen]

I agree with the "Go to the party with your friend" crowd!

Hopefully, that friend will never have a bachelor party again and there will be other times for you to be alone and dress up.

And, it seems that if you moderate the party going a little, there would be some time for both!

Looking back, I regret many of the times where I chose to isolate myself for the sake of getting dolled up, instead of spending time with family, friends or colleagues. 20/20 rear view vision!

Hugs
Suzie

[alwayshave]

Go to the party and send your friend off in style.

[Victoria Demeanor]

My first instinct is to say, Go to the bachelor party. It's not about the drinking, brewery hopping, It's about the groom , the friendship, the last hurrah before marriage, the comradely. I understand, as I believe most us of here do, the desire to dress and the feeling of the dilemma here, but unlike this,(the bachelor party) other opportunities to dress will come up.
With that the only caveat I have is, you didn't give us all the info. Is the groom a close friend or more of a friend of a friend? Also what breweries are you going to? If its a friend of a friend of a friend and you're going to Bush gardens, then I would change my mind and say stay home and girly it up.
So that's just what I think.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi State Fan, What's more important to you, Your friends or dressing up.

I would go with my friends.

[Stephanie47]

Go to the party and stay sober. You can also bow out after a few stops.

[statefan26]

Thank for the input. Suzie, I'm like you where I have made the decision many times to stay in when I have a couple hours to myself rather than go out and socialize so I think i'll try to break that trend this time. Victoria, he's a work friend that I hang out with every now and then. Im sure i'll end up going and hoping for another opportunity in the near future to have some extended time dressing.