So my wife and i have come to kind of DADT situation, but she makes comments sometimes that throw me for a loop. She has offered to do my make-up one day when I go to a support group thing, and the other day she saw a pair of boots in my size on a facebook classified group and pointed them out to me. My thing is that I loved those moments of validation so much. I know she's not into this at all, so for her to push her comfort zone is beautiful. I am just never sure anymore what I can and can't say to her about dressing because of I don't want to push her, but I really want to involve her more.