Hi
There always seems to be a lot of negativity from some SO about their CD partner. I believe that there are also positives and so to balance the books I think that we should find as many positives as possible. If the positives can outweigh the negatives then we must be in a better position.
The following are generalisations but I think that they ring true to many of us. Please feel free to add your own both from personal experience and observation of the community as a whole.
I believe that CD partners are loyal to their SO. Why else would we agonies over revealing that part of ourselves. To trust someone that deeply with 'the secret' show great loyalty, love and a commitment to the long term. All the posts I seem to read are about staying with a SO and how you can please her. Equally I believe that protecting her from 'the secret' still show that long term commitment. The fear of losing your SO compels you to keep the secret as you cannot imagine life without her.
I belive that CD make better husbands and fathers. We have a sensitive side which means we can show affection in ways that 'real men' find it hard to do. Kisses, cuddles, crying at sad movies can't be bad. Overwhelmingly we seem to feel more relaxed and at peace with ourselves - isn't this good for a partner and family?
I believe that we look and women as equals and role models. We appreciate how difficult it is to be a woman. When we dress it's out of respect for femininity and not as a means of ridicule as is the case for non-CD men. Having that respect has to be good for society as a whole.
Katie