Things finally got a little more relaxed here with the wife; so we had an update conversation. I let her know our marriage was worth more then some girly clothes and I had deeply hidden them up in the attic. She called me silly for doing so.
For over a month I had been having nightmares of her having left me when I get home or her storming out; it more or less shook me to the core. b.t.w it had nothing to do about dressing, she had told me a few weeks before that she had planned to leave me the previous year (before my coming out, major anger issues). apparently I obsessed on this too much; she let me know during this last talk that she fells much closer as a friend, and she can't be with anyone who isn't a friend.
Although I'm still lurking on this site (mostly incognito), and I dug up my small collection bag from the attic, I don't think I'm going to push any time soon for some girly time.
I've slowly gone back to doing her hair and nails. I let her know it's hard for me not to ask for the same when I work on hers. I'm trying to be as manly as possible for her now.
She did let me know that it was a huge blow to her ego and self-esteem for her husband to want to be girly and be able to shed it when ever I wanted; unfair was the exact words, but it was her own insecurities she was walking through.
anyway hello again.