things have changed

[antonyio]

things have changed with my friends,most my friends are gg ,when I was all male they all treated me like a female ,we went shopping together ,spoke and joked about girly things(at times even thou I enjoyed it would pull them up that a male was present )and they would laugh,now I have come clean to them and told them I would like to be more female than male,they don't want to know me unless I am as a male around them,the inside of me hasn't changed just the outside,any advice how I can get the friendships back to normal

[Sarah Doepner]

My guess is it will just take time. They were in a comfort zone and you've changed the parameters of that zone. Be patient and be the same person you have always been and see how things are going in a few weeks, once they've gotten their bearings again.

[Lorileah]

welcome to the new normal. They will either decide it isn't a big deal and go back to something similar (it won't be the same ever) OR they will drop you like a hot rock. If A happens, you really have a friend. If B...they're loss and they were using you as a friend for some reason you didn't know

[lingerieLiz]

Some women (men too, but thats for another thread) may not accept you because they are worried about the social stigma. They are worried about being seen with you and potential embarrassment. Even though you are the same on the inside your appearance has changed on the outside. I have no idea how passable you are. It really doesn't matter as you become more fem things have changed.

When I was young and passable some girls thought it was a hoot to go shopping and even go out on double dates or to dances. I gave up the passing long ago and today I'm more or less the inverse of Ellen DeGeneres. I'm sure there are some who refuse to associate.

[Beverley Sims]

Go male for a little while longer but let them realise now and then that you like a particular fashion.

Dressing in jeans and a top will help with gradual assimilation.

Androgynous but not too feminine for a start.

[Allsteamedup]

When the girls are all together they talk about girly things, like how bad their periods are and whether a new boyfriend is sexy etc.

You may look like a girl but the conversation is very different than when you were hanging around as a mixed sex group. What do you think you have to offer to a group of girls conversationally? They do not chat about lipstick shades and fashion. Sorry to disappoint you.

You could also ask yourself what you thought you contributed to the group before you outed yourself....?

[rachael.davis]

if you're transitioning (I hate to say this but) get used to it, you'll be surprised by the friends you lose, and more surprised by the friends you keep.
Odds are pretty good that they assumed you were their token gay male friend.