Allie,certainly don't beat yourself up about it. When you're ready you'll do it. Being in P town,I doubt anyone is going to bother you about. Whatever decision you make,it'll be the right one.
Allie,certainly don't beat yourself up about it. When you're ready you'll do it. Being in P town,I doubt anyone is going to bother you about. Whatever decision you make,it'll be the right one.
allie, a few years ago I found a sure-fire method to help with pre-outing jitters. Schnapps.
I would usually drink some as I was getting ready. This was after a number of times of getting dressed up, then freezing at the door or never getting out of my car. I don't drink much so this would get me relaxed (without having to pee!) but not be under the influence when it came to driving. Do your makeup forst, though....
It reminds me of the line from La Cage aux Folles,
"Would you like a drink?"
"I don't drink."
"It's a good time to start."
Hi Allie
By now you will probably have made a reconnaissance trip or perhaps even have taken those first tentative steps. Whatever path you have chosen, have fun and what you don't do today you can always do tomorrow.
Lauren
It takes some time. No matter how prepared and confident you may feel you are going in to it. It can be a whole nother ball game when it's time to actually hit the door.
Provincetown is a great place to do an excursion like this. The point is to start small and build your confidence. Start with a walk around the block, the a walk to a convenience store, then a trip to a drug store or a grocery store. Then maybe to a gay club, and then to other places that meet your desires and needs.
When you are NOT dressed, be aware of what women your age and size are wearing and where. The miniskirt and 3 inch heels look really hot, but don't wear them to the grocery store. On a nice summer day, shorts and tennis shoes are a good start. By the time you have the confidence to go to a gay club, you will easily be comfortable and accepted.
I would be very careful about going to straight bars in Houston. There is an LGBT center in Houston, and they can give you the names of LGBT friendly venues.
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Yeah, what everyone else said. I wish I were there to help you. You have nothing to fear but fear itself.
Please call me Lisa!
Suck it up and get dolled up as best you can and go for it.
pluck the courage and go for it I did today some people just did not notice others did no big deal, you just need to say to yourself "I can do it"
Good luck and hugs
longlegs
P'town is a great place to start your baby steps. Such a wonderfully gay place! Not saying you are gay hon. Just that it is a very open place. Just remember the great advice from above: Dress correctly for your age and time of day. Just like a GG. Do lots and lots of people watching.
I hope you can get out and have some fun. Do you have any friends there with you? Maybe hit some of the quieter bars/restaurants in town and make new ones?
Have fun hon!! You only live a few times said the Buddhist
I had a group I=in Long island and I went out a few times. The first time , I sat fully dressed in the car right in front of the restaurant...so scared. I wen tit and realized noon cares...a drink or two helps...have confidence.
Alie
Think about this. Everyone in -town is one of LGBT. If you go out in drab as a straight guy, off season, then people will look at you.
Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.
Allie
I'm going to repeat - You're in Provincetown, you're in the gay riviera
Avoid the bear bars, and probably the big muscle and leather bars (drat), and you'll do just fine
There isn't a more accepting place to be
yea I gotta agree with Rachel...it does not get any easier than P-Town unless there was a gay planet somewhere in the universe...your mind is playing tricks on you. After that first step it will all be downhill...BUT you gotta TAKE that first step
Some have advised going out for a casual walk. That's okay I guess but I found it easier to have an accepting destination as a reason for going out dressed. Eg: therapist, support group, GNO.
The first time out was a direct, non stop, door to door trip with a box of masculine clothes on the passenger seat.
As time went on and confidence built, I have become comfortable making other stops along the way.
Best wishes
MsVal
Don't make me come all the way there and drag you out the door screaming and yelling, young lady!
Do not dilly dally have courage sweety and get out there.
Go out in the day! Best place for people watching, ever.
OK, Ok, Ok!
I just had my nails done and a wax.
Legs are shaved all my boy clothes are now dirty as I didn't bring many.
We are going to check out a bar for this evening or tomorrow.
Thanks girls for egging me on.
Jorja- You made me laugh out loud with that comment.
go this evening don't wait for tomorrow go for it
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