One of the brilliant gg's on the site (I think it was Reine - but I can't find the thread) said something about Knowing what I want (related to cding). It really got me to thinking. I'm in the closet with my wife - although I did tell her before we got married (30 years ago), but then told her I would not dress and the subject never came up again. I didn't dress again until our daughter went off to college (2007). I picked up a pair of pantyhose while my wife was out of town and little by little built up a small wardrobe including makeup, forms and wig. I'm still going back and forth about revealing, but have decided to wait (I know - I know - bad idea). But in my case I believe that the ramifications will be the same whether I reveal or get caught.
In any event -
I would like to be able to dress whenever I want
I would like to get my ears pierced
I would like to get a mani/pedi
I would like grow my hair long
- but until she knows, that's not going to happen.
It's just barely possible that she does know and is not saying anything. I've been shaving my legs, arms, chest and underarms for the last year and she either hasn't noticed or just hasn't said anything.