I was very close to writing my first post asking for your experiences in progressing from DADT to acceptance. Instead I read a number of past posts on the subject.
Last week I was away on a business trip and had the opportunity to take a lot of my under dressings with me. Upon my return I "hid" them in our walk in closet as normal awaiting an appropriate time to launder them. Without my knowledge, my most feminine spaghetti strap nightgown had fallen out and between some luggage. My wife happened upon it when getting the luggage for a trip she was going on. This was the first time she had seen this piece. The nightgown was left in plain sight upon my next time in the closet, and when I put it away it was obvious my storage place, which had much more underdressings than ever before, was different. I knew my wife had seen this and had inspected my hiding place.
The next day I broached the subject, which is always awkward for me, but very liberating at the same time. We discussed my obsession openly. Her main fear is that I may transition like Bruce Jenner. I told her I am filled with self doubts due to this a-typical behaviour, but that I loved her and do not foresee that occurring for me. I used the term underdressing for the first time, having heard the term here. She said this was okay with her as long as it did not progress and she doesn't see it, which she has said many times before.
Later that evening we shared a wonderful intimate evening, en homme as usual, but it was wonderful, especially on the heels of the revelation earlier in the day.
Sorry for the long post, but this was a very good day.