The senior members of this forum have ventured forth on this topic before, but I haven't seen this as an option. How about a second obituary for your femme side? The newspapers wouldn't bother to check anything as long as they got paid and you could use your best photo. It's something you could write yourself and have one someone you know and trust submit it when that dark time arrived.
Even if I don't do that I think I'll write one up just for the entertainment. The questions would be what to put in the writeup. Parents and family member names might not make it but schooling, work history and CD experience or community activity would. There could even be a shout out to all the CD's in the world with support for, or suggestions for "in the memory of" donations to a local orginaztion that support the Trans* community.