Dani,
Your wifes reaction and the way she feel right now fits well with what many others feel in the same situation. My wife had a very similar reaction at one point.
A classic situation is that right after a reveal, how ever it comes about, the CD has a feeling of significant relief. Huge weight off the shoulders, finally sharing this with someone and no longer alone with this.
The wife on the other hand feel completely lost and unable to deal with what just happened. Until now, she likely had a feeling of safety and security in her marriage, her sexuality, and her general feelings about herself. She had a circle of frieds, family and colleagues whom she could go to in times of trouble or concern. Part of her safety net was that she had people she could talk to about anything that bothered or scared her. Now .. she realizes that this is something she cannot talk to others aboyut without risk! She feels completey alone.
She need someone, other than you, to talk to.
- Suzie