One personal thing that really troubles me at times.

[Alice Torn]

At 61, and on disability, and my history is attracting the lowest common denominator in women, and men! I am content with being alone. Just would like to date once in a blue moon, but if it does not happen, , well, it has not happened for my sister and brothers, either, and other singles i know. Being six foot six, has not helped me either, as i would like a tall woman. However, being poor, and nothing to offer, but friendship, does not help. There are extremely few tall single women around 60. And, i do agree with a lot of what Sometimes miss said. I see so many older divorced women, who want no part of dating men again. They have "been there, done that." NO MORE! Many are sick of men, period! And yes, some do dress, to purposely repel men! I have had senior lady friends, but strictly friends only. I am leaarning to like living with just cats. I would have a dog, if i had my own place, But, I find it fun, yet frustrating, and very self centered, that i dress up as the very tall lady of my fantasy, or to resemble ladies i once had hoped to make it with. I feel selfish, and so narcissistic. I cannot dress more than once a week, or i get totally into my shell. And I am saddened that most women will not wear dresses, skirts, hose and heels anymore. So, i do it, instead! I have to state my reality here. I am sure it is not everyones reality, as each person has a different set of life circumstances.

[Beverley Sims]

Alice,
No one wants to listen to others troubles, they have many of their own to deal with.

That being said, you are aware of your own situation and should work on a solution.

Yes, find a group to attend meetings for whatever reason, networking and talking to others is always a good start.

Do not let yourself get depressed and putting yourself down, just because you think you are a bigger ogre and occupy more airspace than others, you should remember there are others that think they are winning that race.

I agree we see ourselves as more beautious than others, I applaud you for posting your pictures and telling us about yourself but tell us some more of the brighter things that happen with you. Yes, get out and meet and talk with others, not necessarily instigating the conversation but letting someone in by them saying hello.