In reading another thread about how Bruce Jenner's coming out as being transgender apparently opened a painful reality called communication, it got me thinking about what DADT really means.
Simply, DADT is a label. But is it simplistic to say that all DADT refers to our SO sticking their head in the sand singing "la la la" to drown out the trans in their midst?
I don't think so.
I have described my wife as being DADT but really, I did her a disservice in doing so. It's more like "yeah, whatever", hereto forth known as "Y,W". In other words, she gets it. She gets me. She doesn't play in that part of my world and that is OK. She runs interference for me. She is fascinated by Jenner. It was a vehicle for her to "get" me more. But at the end of the day, it remains "yeah, whatever" as this isn't front & center in our lives together. It is there. It isn't necessarily ignored. We communicate quite well about the trans as needed. I sincerely hope she doesn't dwell on it. I pray she doesn't wake up every morning wondering if this is the day the proverbial shoe will drop and her spouse will announce to the world an intent to transition just as our friend Bruce has done.
She has given me the space that allows me to remain committed to my cause. This whole thing isn't sounding much like DADT to me, hence my new "label", Y,W.
YMMV