You need new friends
Or maybe because I do accept being a part of the whole big we are one umbrella, my CD and DQ friends WOULD stand up with (for) me and I would them. I have.
The porn thing? Ciswomen are in your boat, I don't see that women wouldn't back another woman if for some reason she was being harassed just because she was an exotic dancer or a mailroom clerk.
I get the part about tranny chasers, I do, I get the part where we are seen as objects by CERTAIN men, I do. I also get the part where other men do treat me with respect and they treat my CD friends the same way.
Right now I don't have a boyfriend (girlfriend) mostly because I demand respect, but to be really fair, I haven't looked at places like church or civic groups and such. My socialization is with my TG friends.
In a way I really do feel sorry for those who are willing to cut or not even make ties with the rest of the community. I have met wonderful people. I also have wonderful friends in other communities. I just attract nice people I guess.
In my fantasy world, the day after surgery, I will wake up and the world will be unicorns and rainbows and I will have a house in the suburbs with 2.3 children and attend PTA meetings and Tupperware parties. But I know better. You don't get to play the Cis-gender card, I wish it were true. So what do I have to do?
My choice is to make my world better. To make people see that TGs (yes all TGs) are very much like they are. I have spent an inordinate amount of time on these boards trying to get everyone to play together. I don't see me turning my back on anyone here after surgery because I have the parts then. It confuses the hell out of me why so many are so adamant that they don't want to associate with people who may have the same concerns and issues as you do.
Have fun Be isolated. Don't care what happens to those around you. You don't like being associated with porn stars? You don't like being laughed at? DO SOMETHING about it. Stand up Don't think for a moment when that anesthesia wears off that your world will be any different than it is now. You have to make it better yourself.
Nigella, it's A.
The rest of you, tear yourselves up, just stay in the rules so I don't have to fix things here.