However you cut it, the common thread is crossing the boundary that separates one gender from another. That's what you see. Anything else: opinions, thoughts, perceptions, histories, etc. you have to ask about, but presentation is visible.
And no, consulting us would not have helped. I doubt we would be able to sift through the list I presented on the previous page and more. If we cannot agree here, what difference would you think being asked would do?
DeeAnn