Ok, as the title mentioned, we're pushing the envelope here.
Question: What is a "date"?
Posit: Two people going out to have fun? Nothing in a "date" says there must be sex involved.
I regularly have a "play date" with a man I consider to be my brother, even though we're not blood related. We do this over the internet (MMORPGs, we play Star Wars: The Old Republic and Star Trek Online - have our own fleet!) and we have a LOT of fun.
So... the question: WHY is this "date" different from dating anyone you wish to go out and have fun with?
You're a Genetic Guy (yeah, turned that "GG" right around didn't I?) and you're going to a ballgame or the new Avengers movie or bowling, etc. And you're having fun.
Why is this not considered a "date"? Would you "date" a guy, if it was really called that?
Kids have play dates. But you call it a "date" between two adult guys and suddenly you "must be gay". What's up with that?
No really, why is that "you must be gay"?
Honestly I'd "date" a guy if he was fun to be with, because I already do - I just don't tell him it's a "date" because of the way he grew up. It's the same thing and I absolutely do NOT expect sex (he doesn't know about Melissa), and we have a lot of fun.
So. Dating. What's your perspective? Does "date = sex" or "date = possibility of sex" or something else, like maybe just having fun?
This is something that just came up in my head as I was thinking about life, the universe and everything. I thought I'd toss this out for other people's perspectives.
Please don't dump on other people's ideas of dating in this thread. Let's keep this friendly.
~Melissa in West Texas