Hi there...
Apologies for another Donna missive, but there are a few things on my mind that I want to question...
This is again based on my personal experience and conversations with friends out there in CD land and involves what appears to be a notable separation of need, namely how strong is the 'urge' (for want of a better term) to present in public. Now, I'm fully aware there are a plethora of social, geographic, physical, etc reasons why anyone of us is unable to flaunt our female persona out in the big wide world. I don't want to break into discussions over the merits of these. The question is, 'regardless of external factors, how strong is that need?'
By way of example, I personally would describe it, and I steal another's words, as an aggressive need to present in public. I literally have to get out of the house or I really feel 'uncomfortable'. Now, please it's not a psychosis, not an obsession, not something that is insurmountable... Perhaps it's based on the absolute fun I have when I can get out, I'm not sure. All I can say is that I feel a little depressed if there's nothing on the horizon, no social gathering, no chance to party. Of late, I've started to organise my own just to satisfy this want.
I have quite a social group amongst the friends I have found, but, conversely quite a few friends for whom frocking up at home is all they need, all they want and all they ever intend to do...
So why this extreme? On one side, those of us out to the world, socialising often with the same group in either girl or boy mode, even spending some of their time frocked up at work. (And yes, this is something I'm looking into with considerable pressure from my staff and colleagues to 'just do it!!!'). On the other side we have so many happy to stay out of public view with no compulsion to step outside. Why do some (me included) travel considerable distances just for an evening out with others happy with attending only an annual ball or organised gathering.
So, where do you fit and why??? I know it can be hard to describe, difficult to quantify but how strong a pull does the outside world have??? Please don't get bogged down in the ancillary, the externally imposed reasons. In a perfect world would you be the bell of the ball, or happy to put your feet up at home and enjoy that good Aussie red wine?
Donna xxxxx