I have accepted it a long time ago....own it, enjoy it, and make the best of it.
As far as the word transvestite...to me it's old school....not many people use it anymore not to mention i think its nasty..not professional either ( it was though) .....
i will use the word tranny once in a while to make fun of my friends and say things like omg look at that tranny train wreck or something if they get a little silly & sloppy...but thats about it..more of a joking term......
the more i dive into the cd/tg world though i find i cant even relate to the term crossdresser anymore .....they jokingly say the difference between a tg and a cd is 5 years...and im kinda starting to agree with that....