I don't like the whole notion of sneaking around behind the wife's back to become Kelsey every now and again. With life, work, kids and in general, something always happening in my busy life, does a guy really need another stressor on the plate?
There are times when I just feel like deliberately leaving out something so I can be questioned into a "forced confession" so to speak, instead of always having to carefully sweep the area to make sure I didn't leave my foundation or some article of clothing out by mistake (thought I had the other day and raced home to make sure I hadn't).
I've analyzed every possible scenario and when the time seems appropriate to fess up, something else comes up and the thought of dropping this bombshell on her would be for lack of a better word, unfair.
I've dropped hints recently and though she claims to be open minded, her reactions to certain things seem quite negative. She's ok with Caitlin and Jazz, but it could be more of a situation of "as long as it's not someone I know or affect me personally" type opinion.
I have read countless positive reactions to coming out here and also some not so great ones as well, which then takes me back to the closet point and continue to carefully stash away all my belongings in hopes that she or my kids for that matter, don't find them.
Overall, I feel that the cat will come out of the bag eventually, it's just a matter of how I plan to do it. Has anyone else been in this situation of choices?
I realize that the topics of coming out and the SOs acceptance has been beaten to a pulp here, but any thoughts regarding these possible approaches or any others would be greatly appreciated