I'm 22 years old and for the past year I've been masturbating in women's clothing, which seems rather common around these parts. Well, the problem is that is seems like I have so much shame after I do it and it seems to build up over time to where now I have this incredible Anxiety and OCD about 2 hours after I do it. I'll start to tell myself, I must be a transexual because I like women's clothing and it really turns me on like no other form of masturbation seemed to be able to do, well actually I also fetishized diapers, which seemed to go hand in hand with this fetish, at least for me but that's another story.
Anyway, I'll look online googling, "how does one know if they're trans?" and I'll also be looking at trans forums where they'll describe crossdressing as like the gateway to one day becoming a woman, the story just seems to be all too common. So I'll try not to masturbate for 2 days and the urge to feel feminine will come on so strong, like my mind will be screaming at me to get release. I just don't want to feel tat shame afterward that seems to get worse and worse every time. I haven't been able to eat well in days and the world to me almost doesn't seem real as it used to. I can't talk to friends anymore because the thought of being transexual is always in the back of my mind.
Now I'm not saying there is anything particularly wrong with taking hormones just, if I could I know I'd want to stay in a male body. I've looked at several gender disphoria symptoms and most describe hating your genitals and body hair, which isn't always the case and feeling like you were supposed to be born a girl, which I haven't ever directly thought to myself and I don't at all hate my genitals but I do remember my first sexual experience being in my mom's dress and panties when I was around 12. Anyway, I did end up telling my mother about my crossdressing and masturbation habits because it was eating away at me like no other, just I'm still scared that subconsciously I want to become a woman.
I took the COGIATI test and truthfuly answered the questions and got a -105, which is androgyne gender. Makes sense I guess, I was never unhappy being a male but I always looked at transformation storys of men changing bodies with pretty girls with nice butts/boobs and I liked reading erotic stories. I just wish I could pleasure myself without feeling that kind of crippling Anxiety without feeling that level of Anxiety/ obsessive thoughts afterwards because it was fun. Sorry for my wall of text as well, just so confused right now. A little background on me is that my mind tends to fixate on things that are not true, for example, 5 years ago I used to freak out about "accidentally" killing myself, i'd avoid knives and I also used to fear that my breathing would stop or that I would choke on whatever food I was eating.