Jennifer, you are absolutely right. Early on, my wife was uncomfortable with it but tolerant. Even now I wouldn't say she is "cool" with it but she does indulge me sometimes. Even asking me to put some stockings or lingerie on. This does not mean she is into it. It means that she loves me, accepts that it is part of who I am, and is willing to do things that she is not fully comfortable with to make me happy. And her willingness to do things that make me happy only make me love her that much more.