The whole BDsm thing seems like middle school kids games to me. That may sound funny coming from someone who posts lots of silly story photos here. And, many cheesy, kinky photo stories else where.
However, since mine only involve Sherry and I? There's no compromising rules and arbitrary limits. No one is ever really hurt, embarrassed, dissappointed, or offended. Which, I think, easily happens in real life BDsm.
I have plenty of fantasies and fetishes based on dressing and bondage. But, real life control or being controlled, isn't one of them!