I posted a notice in Upcoming Events about Ian Harvie coming to Corning, NY on October 10. I also mentioned that I will be the Mistress of Ceremonies. In other words, DeeAnn is going to out herself in front of 200-250 people. So, how did this come about?
I'm one of 4 people on the planning committee. After spending some time considering various comedians and contacting them for availability, I believe the agent of someone who was not available suggested 3 or 4 other possibilities. Ian was one of those. After checking bios and YouTube videos, we came to consensus about Ian. He had an open date and a deal was struck.
A week or 2 later, I was sitting in my kitchen, making coffee and thinking about the event. I decided to volunteer to be the MC and almost without thinking, the follow-on thought was that I needed to do it as DeeAnn. It all happened so quickly with no intermediate thought in between. I had to let that settle for a few minutes. As I thought about it, I couldn't really see a downside. I'm planning on retiring in the first quarter of next year. After I retire, we're moving to the west coast. 90% of my project team is in another country. The closest part of my wife's family is 2 1/2 hours away. The closest part of my family is 5 hours away. And, perhaps it could be useful for folks to actually see a crossdresser and realize that every guy who happens to put on a dress is not on a path to transitioning. Anyway, those are the thoughts that came to mind.
So, all of the above was closely followed by another thought: what would I wear? The answer was immediate; bright red Blazer, white satin Blouse, black leather maxi Skirt. Accessories are undecided at this point. These are all items that I purchased some months ago, but not had occasion to wear yet. Note that this doesn't represent a ton of money as the clothes came from a thrift store and an online used clothing vendor. Going from memory, I think the Blazer was about $10, the Blouse about $6 and the Skirt was about $12.
I've always had a great liking and sensitivity for clothes. This covers both male and female variations. I like the idea of being Stylish and this does not necessarily mean In Style. Being Stylish to me implies a classic sort of thought process and bringing old and new elements together to create something that appeals. In support of this, what you'll find in my closet are things that are less than a year old next to a vintage item that is 40+ years old. Anyway, the idea is to definitely stand out but no Drag Queen, no Wal-Mart and no Soccer Mom!
A few days later, I talked to a friend from one of the groups that I hang out with. He thought it was a pretty cool idea and encouraged me to move forward with my plans.
The first step was to tell the rest of the committee that I wanted to do it. The next time we met, I said that I wanted to volunteer to be the MC, but I had one stipulation. Note that this is an LGBT employee affinity group. I told my fellow committee members that, as they knew, I identify as bisexual. But, what they didn't know was that I also identify as transgender and that I would like to present as my alter-ego, DeeAnn. The reactions were Wow!, Yes!, Didn't see that coming... But, all were on board with what I wanted to do.
The next step was to inform the rest of the group. At the next general body meeting, I essentially repeated what I said above. There was silence for a few moments, but the reaction was very similar to what had happened before. All this went down over 4 months ago. So far, I have only been asked one related question. That surprised me as I thought folks would have been much more curious.
As I said, the vision about the outfit was set. However, I went to Michigan over the Labor Day weekend for my Dad's 90th birthday celebration. On the way out, I stopped at SAVERS in Rochester and found 2 of them in Toledo on the way back. Among other things, I came away with a black skirt suit by Le Suit and a medium brown pants suit by Raphaella. It's almost a curse as it has forced me to reconsider what I'm going to wear. So, when I came back home I started searching through my closet. The potential outfits went from the original one, to three and then up to five. But, I have help...
Next week I'm going to Atlanta. My son, who lives there, and I will be at Road Atlanta for the Petit LeMans weekend. There are several support events from Thursday on leading up to the Petit LeMans endurance event on Saturday. It is a 10 hour or 1000 mile event, whichever comes first. Anyway, lots of great racing with many different classes. But, I have scheduled an overnight with Phoebe Cross for Monday. I'll take some of the clothes with me and will have photos for the rest. She'll help me work through that as well as some advanced makeup work.
So, that's where things stand at the moment. More to come...
DeeAnn