I was caught in a misgendering situation this morning doing some of the requisite name change administration.
So far I've been pretty ok, kept it lite, and passed it off with most people. It's happened quite rarely...not because I'm a ravaging beauty but here in my little world people are quite cordial and roll with it.
This morning, however, my reactions to services Canada took an unexpected and surprising turn. After introducing myself as Jennifer, handed the clerk(man) my papers I was misgendered. So I nicely corrected with solid eye contact and repeated. Ma'am. A minute later again got the sir thing... Which resulted in quite a strong response ...yes hair on the back of my neck was raised.
3rd time he caught himself mid sentence. Oooohhh I would have lost it as blood was starting to boil.
The question ... Is this a reaction to my official name and gender marker change. Have I crossed over into some entitlement space that I wasn't expecting?
Many of you have commented on your reactions to being misgendered. Was it based on just how you felt others should respond to you or did it come AFTER you received some official documents that launched you into a feeling of entitlement space?
I'll be thinking about my reaction to this today and be more aware of my own reactions going forward as my reaction this morning surprised me, the situation, equally pissed me off at the same time.
Ooooommmmmm ooooommmmm oooooommmmm. Ok feel better now, heading to work.
Cheers... Jennifer