I have decided that I am out and out to stay. So while it may not be a daily discussion, I am not making any efforts to hide my past either.
I work with a team regularly and for about the last 7 years. We meet once a week and there are about 15-20 of us each week. Well, Friday night is my one year full time (at 6:30 PM to be exact). Because of the closeness of the team, I decided at this week's meeting to have a personal moment and thank them for their support, which has been exceptional as they have completely treated me as a woman from the beginning, no questions asked ever. One problem is that 9 months ago we took on a new team member who was new to the company. She is Serbian, so I had no clue how she would react because of cultural differences. She certainly is a nice and happy person.
So my time came to talk and I looked at the lady and said that if anything I said was confusing, that we would talk after. I got teary eyed (hate that at work) and thanked everyone for a year of support and that my life was wonderful now, probably in a lot more words. We finished the meeting and she came and sat next to me. I pulled up my security badge photo on my laptop and said "this is on my current badge", then I pulled up my old one and said "this is the previous one". She looked it and gave the normal "no way". When I nodded, she just said "you are a woman and he doesn't exist" and then hugged me. I asked if she knew anything at all and she said no. I then said "no rumors?" and she said no.
Really? No rumors and she started working here just three months after my transition. I never imagined that would happen. You assume you are tagged by everyone that has been around. With a large workplace, rumors and drama are almost the rule. I have to say, I really have a bunch of great co-workers!