I came on this forum not too long ago feeling like I had a supportive wife and things moving in a positive direction.
In the last week though everything has started to come apart. My wife has begun to express serious doubts about us staying together, and is expressing to me that she's feeling distant and cold from me and doesn't want to be close to me intimately, and isn't sure she ever can be again. It's coming as kind of a shock because I feel like she's been supportive of my exploring this side of me until very recently. Her issues include discomfort with things she feels are 'fake'. i.e., me wearing a wig or using breast forms. Her exact words are that she feels like she doesn't know me anymore.
I'm sure others on here have gone through similar experiences, and to be honest, I'm not sure that this isn't just an isolated rough patch that we'll get through. I'm hoping it is. We're trying to line up a couples counselor to talk with and just haven't been able to make the schedules work out yet. It's a priority on my to-do list today.
For background, I told her many years ago, before we got married, about my dressing. She had difficulty with it then, and we went to see a therapist who basically screwed things up even more, recommending I suppress it. In the closet for the next ten years or so and just trying to reemerge and embrace it now. She has been encouraging me to meet others and figure this out, but I think the reality of it has gotten too difficult for her.
Not necessarily looking for advice. I know the next steps. Communicating. Working with a therapist to help us identify the real problem, etc. Just needing to vent and have a shoulder to cry on. Thanks all.