IMHO it takes three ingredients...Sugar (appearance), spice (manerisms), and everything nice (voice) but how much of each?
Let's say to 'pass' you need 100 units of 'girl power' but does the scale slide (like 20, 60, 20 or maybe 60, 30, 10)?
And not to exclude those that just plain don't care...do you just plain don't care...I don't bake stuff, OK! 😠 😉