Sexual arousal

[thomson737]

Hello,

I hope this post is appropriate.

I just wondered if any other males get aroused when dressing up in either lingerie or in full woman mode? The reason I ask is I wondered if there was a way at all to control it? Id love to be able to slip things on without getting a fully aroused. I think the best solution is to not think about it all that much. After a while, my 'excitement' does fade and I go back to normal as if I'm wearing normal male clothes. But sometimes it can't be helped. The most annoying thing is trying slip on some underwear, which is impossible without anything slipping out.

So, generally do men get aroused or does it have to be something specific when getting changed into feminine garments? Any solutions?

[JanePeterson]

Used too.. With practice not quite so bad anymore, just a low but constant sensation of feeling sexy

[tictac43]

exactly how I feel most of the time

Used too.. With practice not quite so bad anymore, just a low but constant sensation of feeling sexy

[Beverley Sims]

No solution as I see it is a natural phenomenon, you just have to learn to regulate it.

[Sky]

Keep your panties in the freezer until you wear them.

[Amy Fakley]

No solution as I see it is a natural phenomenon, you just have to learn to regulate it.

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What you did there. I see it, lol

[Lori Kurtz]

As a fetishistic crossdresser, my dressing was all about the sexual arousal. I would have to accomplish my tucking before putting on any makeup or female clothing of any kind--otherwise the tuck would become impossible. Although I no longer actively dress, I'm sure that if I tried it, I would still get the same thrill, and that every dressing session would end the way they always used to when I did (even though at my age, I would look ridiculous if I tried to become the hot-looking babe . I still get plenty of vicarious thrills from some of the postings of the girls here.

[pamela7]

it varies, familiarity can reduce it, but surely the arousal is a big part for many of us, of the whole experience ;-)

[adrienner99]

Ummm...YES. Always get aroused during the process of dressing. Makes me wonder how much of my situation is true crossdressing or just a fetish for heels, satin, lipstick....

[Victoria Demeanor]

Okay I guess I'm the odd on this. For me it actually has an opposite affect. This was a big problem for me when I was trying to figure this out. For a long time I tried to convince myself that this was a sexual fetish and couldn't figure out why I lost interest as soon as I started to put on anything girly. I have so many feelings when I wear women's cloths and become Victoria, but arousal isn't one of them. don't get me wrong I'm not downing anyone as I really wish that was the case for me.

[vixenvicki]

Not so much anymore. When I was younger I was dressing for the arousal. Something about it being taboo I think. As my femme side matured, I started to dress like an everyday girl, instead of always putting on lingerie, and just wanted to express my femme self. With that, the arousal part went away.

Every now and again, I'll still put on lingerie to heighten arousal, but it's no longer the primary goal of dressing for me.

[docrobbysherry]

Many here say that for them it was a "passing phase" of their dressing.

I'm 72 and have been dressing for 18 years. I'm STILL waiting for this exciting side effect of my dressing to pass!

[Bruce64]

I let it linger and it fades away, if I dwell on the arousal part then I do not enjoy wearing the fem stuff

[Dana3]

Not so much anymore. When I was younger I was dressing for the arousal. Something about it being taboo I think. As my femme side matured, I started to dress like an everyday girl, instead of always putting on lingerie, and just wanted to express my femme self. With that, the arousal part went away.

Every now and again, I'll still put on lingerie to heighten arousal, but it's no longer the primary goal of dressing for me.

Pretty much the same for me? When I wan younger? Most definately, but now? Its more about self expression

[Rachael Leigh]

I would say it's very common fetish or not I mean being able to dress pretty should get you excited.
For me it's not so much anymore sense it's so much more normal for me now.
However it still does happen usually when the makeup starts to go on

[ClosetED]

Many crossdressers progress from that stage. Some start during ealy puberty and sexual release often ends the session of dressing and guilt remains. There are labels for that-fetishistic tranvestism. As many years of this pass, many move to stage where there is arousal but not ending in orgasm. Then many move to where there is no sexual arousal from dressing, but a feeling of being at peace, calm, happiness. I get aroused now with thoughts of having someone be excited and desire to be with me while I am dressed. Having a DADT wife makes that very difficult.
Hugs, Ellen

[Tracii G]

Maybe the first few times.

[Adriana Moretti]

Im not gunna lie....i still get a little wet if I put the right outfit on...just a little

[steffigirl37]

Although I am almost 60, I still quickly become aroused when dressing, thinking of dressing, or seeing something I really would like to wear. I don't feel as if it will ever fade.

I do like to dress and become fully en fem, sit and relax and let the arousal subside. To me it feels very euphoric.

[kittie60]

It use to, but not anymore. I guess living full time. I have gotten use to it. Or he has.

[Gretchen_To_Be]

The moment you slip your foot in the first heel...then, as you watch yourself in the mirror, admiring your smoothly shaved legs in sheer hose, you raise one leg upwards behind you to don the other heel. You straighten your skirt, loving the sheen on your legs and how the heels lengthen them...

[PaulaQ]

Some thoughts:
1. Sexual arousal doesn't make what you are experiencing any more or any less legitimate.
2. My sexual arousal while CDing continued up until the time I came out to myself as a woman, and then it ended rather abruptly. Not too much longer after that, my entire sex drive crashed, and I had none. This was all prior to HRT.
3. One weird consequence of that - and I think this is pretty unique to me - is that my interest in pornography and in masturbating are both basically non-existent. I have a sex drive, it's fine. But despite the fact that I had an enormous porn collection - nearly a terabyte (long since deleted), and that I used to masturbate quite a lot because sex with my wife was so terribly unsatisfying - I've not been able to get much of anything from either of those activities. I have sex quite often now, but I just don't care about porn or masturbation. It's not that anything is wrong with them - I think they are totally fine. They just do nothing for me anymore.
4. If you aren't in a hurry to get out of your clothes when CDed, and / or the sexual desire has gone away, my gender therapist asserts that this is a sign your gender issues are more about gender identity, rather than just expression.

[Usulsjourney]

With me there is a range of feeling from mildly erotic up to complete arousal. I have never dressed longer then a few hours at a time to see if it fades, but it would be just fine with me if it did not. That may take some of the fun out of it for me. Just being able to feel a strap rubbing across my thigh or the snugness of the nylon on my legs under my cloths keeps me excited.

[Acastina]

Some thoughts:

4. If you aren't in a hurry to get out of your clothes when CDed, and / or the sexual desire has gone away, my gender therapist asserts that this is a sign your gender issues are more about gender identity, rather than just expression.

I think your therapist is spot-on. I'm pretty much full-time at home, and habitually casual. If you do this all the time, it becomes a little strange to be clacking around the hard floors in heels and hose; girl jeans, a nice top, and flats for me, plus jewelry and light makeup.

I'm sorry for my fellow senior citizens who report that the physical thrill doesn't work for them any more. Mine shows no sign of letting up at 67, and in fact seems even a little stronger than ever, but it's a sometimes thing. To use your therapist's terminology, the expression (especially full-boat femmy) is arousing for most of us and leads to the usual mechanism of release, but if it's identity as well (or instead), it's hardly an every-time trigger.

There is an emotional arousal that's inescapable, a feeling of rightness and relief. I can clean up in a suit and tie and look the part, but, meh; doesn't do a thing for me, mildly depressing, in fact. Any form of girly and that emotional thing is just there, a peculiar combination of mild excitement and serenity.

The only time I'm in a hurry to get out of my clothes is to respond to unexpected company that can't be ignored...

[Julia1984]

"Mild excitement and serenity". You hit my nail square on the head. Mind you I'm not even 50...yet!