as jennifer...my wife and i went to hear my son's band play at a club.
i was introduced as jennifer was having a lovely time. a bit later while my wife was up watching the band i approached from behind and put my hand on her shoulder/nape of neck
she shrugged it off and said she did want to be seen as a lesbian.
i was stunned to say the least and it continues to bother me a couple of weeks later. i tried to play it down but she was serious. i guess i did not realized the depth of her feelings although she is 100% supportive
i am still smarting from the slight