Hi All,
As you can see I'm new to the site and wanted to ask a bit of advice. To be honest, I'm still figuring out if and how much I want CD to be a part of my life. I'm complex (like us all) and have a strong (and what I would call) masculine side to my personality. I love the outdoors - rock climbing, backpacking, skiing, hiking, mountaineering - the more challenging the better. Some people would find this gross but I am perfectly happy to go days (or even weeks) without showering when I'm in the mountains (although love to swim/bathe in mountain lakes). There is something natural about it that helps you connect with the land around you rather than fight the effects. [Side note: I did indeed go three weeks last summer without showering on a backpack trip and do you know what? I had absolutely no BO (even I was surprised). It proves that BO is largely related to the foods we eat (I was eating mostly healthy freeze-dried meals, nuts, dried fruits/vegetables, etc.). I am passionate about health, and the foods we eat play such a critical role in all dimensions of our health]
Anyhoo, as I was saying I consider myself to have many masculine characteristics. However, I do have a feminine side. Since college I have enjoyed the thrill of putting on pantyhose (in secret) and over the years have built up several large collections only to purge them for one reason or another. I have broadened out to many other items (90% online purchased) including panties, girly socks, lingerie, leggings, a few skirts, tanks/camis, makeup, and a few pairs of shoes. As far as I know, no one has ever found out about any of it. It truly would be devastating if any of my close friends or family found out, at least until I'm married. I don't want a CD revelation impacting my self confidence and hence my ability (as I see it) to pursue my lofty career and life goals. But I do enjoy expressing my feminine side. I can continue to do this in secret, but have increasingly been looking for very small ways to do this in public.
For example (and I know this must be laughable for most of you given the timidity), I like wearing women's ankle and no-show socks with my sneakers (these are so similar to men's nowadays as to be virtually indistinguishable, but I still like it). I like wearing running tights, especially ones that look similar to women's tights. I've worn women's trouser socks at work. Occasionally I will wear panties under my work clothes, if they are not uncomfortable to wear all day.
So, with that as my long-winded introduction, I wanted to inquire will all you "experts" about other small baby-steps you would suggest that I consider (mostly for public). I hope you don't look down on my novice position here because I really do like and want to express my feminine side, just in very small ways (at least for now).
Also, my suspicion is that there are many other men out there just like me, looking for small ways to express their femininity in public without going all the way. For every one CD man, I would guess there are 5 or 6 men drawn to it but only looking for small ways to express it. Thanks so much all for any advice you would be willing to offer!
-Kristy(?)