Please accept my apologies for not the most positive rant.
I've been making good progress over the last year; allowing myself more permission to be me. My support net is growing. It's amazing to have so many people know about me and still have them around cheering me on. This is something many of us don't get, so I am grateful and feel very fortunate to have their support.
Yet, despite feeling like progress is being made, despite the positive cheers from others, I've fallen several steps backward. Dark, destructive thoughts have crept up and are roaring with an intense ferocity rivalling the time before HRT.
I hate this in-between stage. I'm not Him, but I'm not Holly either. I feel torn in two different directions. There is still so much of Him around and I feel overwhelmed. My brain is being gravitated to old beliefs such as: Holly isn't real, I'm a man and will always be, this is a pointless journey with no chance of actually achieving happiness and peace.
Looking in the mirror is a daily crap shot. Will I like what I see today? Will I see a glimpse of Holly? Or, will I only see a slightly feminized Him with atrocious hair after my transplant surgery.
I've slipped back into some old behaviours such as cursing ciswomen under my breath. The feeling of being cursed with GD runs rampant and my brain seems to think outwardly protecting my frustrations will help.
I'm not strong enough for all this. I thought I was. I thought I was making tremendous progress, but inner turmoil persists violently. It's so fortunate my external support is as wonderful as it is because my inner support is the lowest it's been in months. If I were additionally facing external conflict, like others on this forum, I feel I would almost certainly cave and self-destruct.
I need to get back to therapy. It's been a couple months since my last session. I've been trying to do things on my own, but am clearly failing.
I need help.
I need help seeing Holly and that she is indeed real and possible beyond a slightly feminized dude.
I need help getting away from deeply rooted beliefs that I'm just a man and will always be one; happiness isn't possible.
I need help not caring so much about the opinion of others.
I need help not comparing myself to others.
I need help learning how to do things for myself and to stop wallowing in self-pity.
I need help picking myself back up.
I thought I had moved passed these struggles. I worked with my therapist and friends and started to see a pinhole of light at the end of the tunnel. But after being on HRT this long and still seeing myself and feeling so trapped in His life, the struggles and old beliefs have come back with a vengeance.
I almost feel like I've fallen back to the beginning of my journey.
I want peace.