I find the story the same in allot of cases...guy is young ...crossdresses...slows through High school but does it, gets bigger in college like years ...finds his love ventrally and slows to almost zero...over time increases in secret...has kids wife good job stuff...seethe picture? Its not so easy, you put this away in a box and it comes out later...by then it is hard to be just honest as you have been lying! you thought it would go away..
Yes I see her point of view...but this whole thing is not black and white