If this is a forum where people come for support, how does it help to only burst their bubbles?
I have seen this too many times. And it blows my mind every time. Somebody posts a story about getting out of their comfort zone. Maybe getting the nerve up to go to the mall, going into a store of any size, shopping for the clothing or shoes they want so badly. They have a great time... Talk about how the sa or another shopper treated them so well... How they were pleased with their appearance and felt passable... Generally had a great time, and wanted to share it.
The first several replies will be lots of smiles and congratulations and pats on the back for taking a huge step and having fun, as I believe they should be.
Then it starts... "The sa only wants your money" or "You weren't as passable as you think" or any number of other items that may pop into a persons brain.
But I have to ask why.
Why is it so hard to let a person enjoy their victory, whether it be as simple as going for a drive, or a full on pink fog shopping spree at all the best stores?
This isn't to argue the sa's motives. We all know a good sa is looking to make a sale, and yes, our money is as good as anybody's. But we don't know if over the course of two hours of browsing and trying things on and getting opinions that there wasn't some type of connection made which a true friendship could develop from.
And as as far as passable goes, I've seen GGs that look less passable than the girls I see here. They come in all shapes and sizes, and at every point along the infamous 1-10 scale. Any of us can be passable if we are willing to put forth the effort. Granted some are better than others, more blessed in that area, but anything is possible. And there are a lot of other things that contribute, such as voice and mannerisms. But in their mind they are happy with where they are currently at in their journey.
It is also a given, that if somebody asks for an opinion, then honesty is expected. I know I want honest opinions when I ask for them, as I want to learn how to improve my appearance.
But in the scenarios above, is it really necessary to bust their bubble? If you don't have anything good to say, is it really necessary to say anything at all?
I would like to hear others thoughts on this, but please think about it before you respond.