Tammy,
I am sure this topic will make for a great discussion. Many will share their opinions and personal experiences, as I will. I agree with your comment about cross dressers not being gay... Curious even? Or at least have thought about being with the same sex.
When I was younger and first started cross dressing, I had help. My girlfriend. It started out as something fun to do, though I enjoyed dressing up for her and her friends quite often. My mom and her mom knew and we would discuss dressing at times, because they wanted to know how far or long I would take it. My girlfriend and her friends liked it I liked it and at the time that is all that mattered. One evening over several daiquiri they asked me if I had feelings about being with another guy, since I enjoyed dressing up so often. I told them I was a little curious but seriously doubt that I would "look for a male date" that I prefer women, and their company. After more daiquiri and everyone had changed into our slumber party clothes we started playing "Truth or Dare". Which was mostly daring if the bottle pointed at you. During one of the dares I had to walk to the corner store and pick up a pack of gum fully dressed. So after they dressed me up and put makeup on me we all snuck out and headed for the Time Saver. It was late and no one was out or about till we were in the store. One of my girlfriends friend's boyfriend arrived as we were walking through the parking lot. He didn't recognize me at all, and he offered to go get more daiquiri for us. So after getting back, I got very nervous because we never had a guy join us and I could be found out. So still under candle light he shows up and we continue to drink and play truth or dare. He did find out, we did kiss and touch each other, mostly what we were told to do. It was fun and exciting. The next day when it was just her friend and her boyfriend we sat down and spoke about what happened. We all agreed to the secret nor were we upset over it. They went to a different school, so I wasn't too scared of what happened getting out. We did end up together with her friends slumber party at other times. We never thought of ourselves as "gay" either because our our girlfriends or just because of our attitudes. We didn't mind those that were gay, but didn't hang around those that had an issue with that lifestyle either. The early 80s was a different time... Was I confused? Not really, I did think about it, but what I wore didn't effect the way I thought. I have always treated people by their actions not by what they wore.
Sorry so long.
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Michelle