Quote Originally Posted by Marcelle View Post
Reine is correct in that it can take an inordinate amount of time for SOs to accept this in their partners which is why once you are out to your SO you need to lay all your cards on the table and continue to do so as you move forward.
Yes, this too. Your wife needs to know how far you want to go with this. Do you want to continue improving your wardrobe and presentation in order to go out on a regular basis and blend in but still retain parts of your male life?

Or do you want to take it further and come out to the rest of your family, your friends, at work, and live as a woman full time (24/7). Do you also want to alter your physical appearance with hormones (please read their effects on male sexual functioning first), breast implants, facial feminization surgeries or perhaps SRS.

I need to caution you that more wives are comfortable with husbands who crossdress outside of their known circles than husbands who transition, for the simple reason that if wives are hetero, this does not change even when the husband transitions. We do have a handful of transitioners whose wives have stayed with them and who now live publicly either in same-sex relationships if the husband passes, or with a husband who is perceived as being either a TG or a man who dresses up (if male gender cues are still present), but this is not the norm among GGs.