Okay so the rules have been set, she is going to be open and willing to allow me to be myself (in a controlled environment away from friends, family, and especially our son) but common ground has been found. NOW WHAT? I have found myself at a point where I want to set the limits at a reasonable end of the scale, but reasonable to whom exactly? I have never been one that fully dresses, I guess I just have never had that need, but as I have gotten older, the idea of being in public is intriguing to me. She wants me to bring to the table what I want first. Now this tactic isn't new to me, its highball, lowball, not-so-high-ball, not-so-low-ball...etc...I'm not buying a used car here, I just don't know what to come to the table with. Should I make my own cuts to me needs before the proposal hoping on a first sight agreement? Then later will I wonder if I could have went higher? What if her level is just way to small, and I know I couldn't adhere to those regulations?