So, I'm a bit torn on this one.
I'm actually not even going to talk about this in terms specific to crossdressing. For the purpose of this discussion, people who "pass" will be the 20 something and everyone else will be the 60 something year old lady. Also, I'm going to talk about nudists instead of crossdressing in an effort to diffuse some of the passion people will have and to make a point. The ages are a bit random, you can substitute "young" and "old" and let them be whatever age you want. So, try not to get too hung up on the ages I picked for this example. If it makes a difference, there was a time when I was the 20 something but that time has passed. I know, that was terrible of me to start a serious discussion with a lame pun.
On the one hand, you have the young hot looking 20 something that would be pretty much accepted anywhere publicly in nearly anything she wears.
On the other hand, you have the 60 something year old 300+ lbs lady that would get dirty looks for pretty much anything she wears but the more revealing her clothes are the more dirty looks she'll get.
I don't really believe people should discriminate against the overweight lady for not being young and hot looking. Yet, I feel everyone should have limits on what they do and do not wear in public. I'm not going to tease the overweight lady for being out in public but I also really don't want to see, all of that. As for what she does in private, that's really none of my business.
So, let's pretend these fictional example people are both nudists. In both cases, their hobby would be considered illegal and socially unacceptable. Yet, the hot looking 20 something would probably be able to get away with it a lot more than the less attractive 60 something could get away with. To be even remotely fair, we shouldn't punish one more than the other but there's no helping that some will find one more offensive looking than the other. We don't really get to choose what we find attractive looking or offensive looking. Should it really be illegal to be nude in public? I don't know, I'd say probably not. I'd also say I don't really want to see that. My point is, whether it's right or not, we're more likely to lean one way picturing the 20 something and more likely to lean the other picturing the 60 something. The most annoying part is we don't get much of a choice in how we feel about it.
While I definitely feel like the line we draw for acceptable and unacceptable should be the same for both people, just where do you draw the line? Society keeps redrawing it from one extreme to the other. There are those who only want to see the most conservative dress where almost no skin is revealed and then there are those who'd support public nudity. Should we all be required to wear hooded cloaks that conceal everything or should we all be walking around in our birthday suits? Is there even a reasonable middle ground here? I really don't know.
I see both sides of the argument and feel really conflicted about it. I don't want to hate but there are some things I just don't want to see. Yet, I don't enjoy being told what I have to wear. I don't mind compromising on what I'm allowed to wear in public, as long as I can dress in a way I find reasonably comfortable, but that brings us back to the problem of where to draw the line. Some people genuinely feel uncomfortable wearing any clothes at all. Some only like clothes that aren't socially accepted. How can you possibly make everyone happy? Who's going to have to be left feeling uncomfortable/offended?
You know, there was a time in my life where I liked to believe I could see the inner beauty in everyone, then I saw someone for which there was simply not enough eye bleach. I'd like to say I was more horrified by my reaction to what I was seeing than by what I was seeing but I was too overwhelmed to even say I know which horrified me more. So, painfully, I must admit there are some things, some people, in this world I just would rather not look at. The more I see of them the more difficult it is for me when they are in view. I'm not going to hate but we all have our limits on what we can handle, you know? At some point, you will see a person, you're mind going to "Nope." really hard and you're going to have to look away. So, what do you do in a situation where you are not really allowed to either look or walk away? In that situation, the less of them they are showing off, the easier it will be on you. Is it a bit selfish to want others to shield themselves from your eyes? Yes. Yet, in society, we're expected to be conscious of those around us and try to be at least somewhat accommodating. The way I see it, I try to make my appearance less offensive to others in the hope that they will return the favor.
In my heart, we all have beautiful souls. Yet, my eyes are cruel *******s that try to twist my heart with ugly reflections.
In an ideal world, we could all go when and where we want dressed any way we want and no one would ever feel offended. Unfortunately, this world is far from ideal.
What are your thoughts on it?
My apologies if the title seems a bit misleading. This post kind of went a different way than I expected and I can't think of a better title now.
I'm not sure what kind of real debate I'm expecting given where I'm posting this (I'm not going to be surprised if the replies tend to be one sided) but this kind of thing gets stuck in my mind from time to time.