It seems to me that you are either a Woman or a Man. That construct is in the brain. These things have nothing to do with genitalia. I would postulate that if you're in the fluid spectrum, you still don't know. Once you do, you can either manage your feelings or do something to physically adopt congruence with your thoughts and feelings.
In my mind's eye, the burly guy driving a truck who knows he is a woman but has done nothing about it and told no one, is as transsexual as the post op who passes easily. Miss burly just hasn't followed the same path. On the same note, the person who dresses as a female and adopts some of the mannerisms and social behaviors of a woman to the point of passing, may or may not be trans. Only that person can know for sure. I digress. My point is, you either know or not, you either are or aren't. I don't think adopting behaviours or clothing will take you further in the journey. Lisa