Hi All,
OK, here I go again, probably being controversial - perhaps I ought to change my name to Miss Controversial.....
I hope I manage to describe this properly. In the dim and distant past when I was married, lovemaking was infrequent mainly because I would only initiate when I knew that my wife was in the mood. This may have been due to naivety or fear of rejection but I was always of the view that her enjoyment was the most important thing to me. Now I am very aware that in a lot of relationships (and before anyone jumps on me and tells me they are not like this - I have no intention of criticising anyone here) the man is often just out for himself and uses his partner for self-gratification. This is not the case (usually) with women, who prefer all the ancillary activities around the sex act itself e.g., talking, touching, appreciating, cuddling etc. etc. and it is much more of a whole experience for them. This is supported in part by the differences in biological and physiological responses between men and women.
Anyway, I wonder if my sensitivity to my partner's feelings is connected at all to my crossdressing desires, which is, in part, my femininity wanting to exercise itself. Is there a sort of balance within the mind where men are say 80% male and 20% female, but in some men it is say 70% male and 30% female which manifests itself in different ways? Are male chauvinist pigs 100% male and 0% female or maybe just 100% selfish?
I suspect that each and every one of us in this forum are probably biased and cannot be objective about this, but I would be interested in your views.
If I have said or implied anything hurtful or critical please accept my sincere apologies - that was not my intention. Please don't jump on me - way too delicate today!
Emma